You’re Still Heartbroken (Even If You Say You’re Fine)

You scroll past their name in your contacts at 2 AM. You say “I’m good” when your best friend asks how you’re really doing. You’ve mastered the art of the casual shrug when someone mentions their name. But here’s what no one’s telling you: pretending you’re over someone doesn’t make the heartbreak disappear—it just sends it underground, where it shows up in ways you don’t expect.

If you’ve been telling yourself (and everyone else) that you’ve moved on, but something still feels off, you’re not broken. You’re human. Healing doesn’t follow a timeline, and it definitely doesn’t care about how “fine” you look on the outside. Today, I’m walking you through nine gentle signs that your heart is still tender, plus one small shift you can make tonight to start honoring where you actually are.
The Signs Your Heart Is Still Healing
1. You Can’t Stop Scrolling Through Old Photos

You’re at a party, feeling out of place, so you pull out your phone. Before you know it, you’re three months deep into your camera roll, staring at their smile. You remember that day—the inside joke, the way they laughed, how easy everything felt. For a moment, you’re not at the party anymore. You’re back there, in that bubble where nothing had gone wrong yet.
What’s really happening: Your brain is trying to make sense of the loss by revisiting the “evidence” that things were once good. It’s looking for clues, trying to understand how something that felt so right could end.To read more, tap here