9 Small Daily Habits That Keep Love Alive in Long-Term Marriage

You wake up next to the same person you’ve loved for years, yet somehow you feel more alone than ever. You pass each other in the hallway with polite nods.

Conversations stay surface-level—grocery lists, kids’ schedules, who’s picking up dinner. The spark didn’t die in some dramatic fight. It just… faded. And the guilt of wondering if this is all there is sits heavy in your chest at 2 a.m.

Here’s what no one tells you about long-term marriage: it’s not the big romantic gestures that keep love alive. It’s the invisible daily habits—the moments of turning toward each other instead of away.

Today, I’m sharing nine gentle, research-backed practices that can restore intimacy without couples therapy or awkward vulnerability exercises. These are the small shifts that counselors, psychologists, and people in thriving 30-year marriages swear by. And the best part? You can start tonight.

1. Ask One Real Question Every Day
Surface conversations are relationship quicksand. When every exchange is about logistics—”Did you pay the electric bill?” or “What time is soccer practice?”—you stop seeing each other as lovers and start functioning as co-managers of a household.To read more, tap here